Sunday, May 22, 2016

Give the Gift of Confidence

Give the gift of confidence
When I am wavering in my confidence, a
change in perspective usually helps.
Here I am testing my confidence 300 feet
in the air on a rope bridge.
I have been working with a lot of people lately who are high achievers, amazing people and truly gifted and creative - and yet, they all suffer from the same affliction...ebbs and flows in their confidence.

It really is the human condition to be rolling along doing well and then wham! get hit over the head with a bout of second guessing, a trigger that takes our breath away or simply a moment when it is just hard to make a decision about what to wear. These lulls in confidence happen to even the best of us. The more prepared we are with a plan when we are confronted with low self-confidence, the faster we can get on with our lives.

Now, don't get me wrong, there may be a few individuals who are out there who don't ever struggle with a lag in confidence, but I haven't met them yet. It may just look a little different than second guessing, or apologizing for everything you say and do or crawling into your bed and remaining under your covers for an entire day.

Low moments in confidence can be reflected in angry conversations, withdrawal from situations or body language - we all have our various ways of revealing to the world that we ay not be feeling the best about ourselves in this moment.

The great news about this situation is that it is temporary and there are a wide variety of strategies for moving out of a low confidence experience...my book Up and Over: Boost Your Confidence is filled with practical everyday strategies to find your personal power...and it makes a great gift for graduates, employees and friends who are going through  a life transition.

Here's a strategy that will be included in the next edition - so have fun and try these 3 simple strategies when you are feeling a little low.

Feeling a little out of sorts?

Three simple strategies to boost your confidence:

  1. Walk yourself to a mirror and repeat 3 affirmations or kind things you have said to others today. Repeat the affirmations while looking at yourself in your eyes and tell yourself that you mean what you are saying.
  2. Act as if: The final chapter in Up and Over: Boost Your Confidence When There is None To Be Found shares strategies to "Fake It Until You Make It" and if you are struggling to believe yourself as you repeat these affirmation, you will need to just act as if you mean it.
  3. If you have not said 3 affirmations to others or kind words today - get out there and make that so immediately. Once you have completed that task - look yourself in the mirror and repeat Step #1.

Simple practical strategies to help you move forward. I look forward to hearing from you about what works for you - fill out the comment below or send me an e-mail. Let's share the gift of confidence with each other and brighten your day.


I would love to hear any of your suggestions, tips and ideas that have worked for you to help boost your confidence!

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